Rejection and Getting Dumped

Tay-Lynne Hunt & Brandi Walls - 9 Journalism

For most girls and guys the fact of getting rejected is nerve racking. Whether it’s fitting in with a certain group or asking someone out, rejection hurts. Another big thing that hurts is getting dumped. Whether you’re a guy or a girl it does hurt.

But nothing will come easy to either side. You can be the rejected or the rejecter or the dumper or the one being dumped, it’s hard for both…most of the time. The common thing in both rejection and getting dumped is that they both occur in dating. You can be scared of getting rejected or you can be hurt because you got rejected.

For the people out there scared of rejection don’t be. I know it’ll hurt if you do get rejected but at least you’ll know. And you don’t have to keep wishing and wandering if this person really does like you. Take chances though, life isn’t fun without them. But maybe this person likes you already or once this person knows then maybe he or she will start to like you back. But the one thing about taking chances is only take them if you’re comfortable with it. If you’re not then it’s not worth it. If you do get rejected move on . . . some things weren’t meant to be. That’s really the best you can do, live with what you’ve got now. It’ll hurt for a bit, but I’m sure there’s someone else out there for you.

Getting dumped, especially for girls it hurts, even more when you really liked the guy. Ladies all I can say is treasure the memories and move on but don’t regret. Regretting won’t help because you and I both know that he was what you wanted at the time, why else would you of gone out with him? Putting him down might help a little but it won’t help you get over him. To all the besties/friends out there trying to cheer her up don’t tell her he was a mistake and

he’s not really worth it if he dumped you. Or if he couldn’t see how beautiful you are he’s stupid. Okay yeah he may be stupid because you’re really gorgeous but…to all the friends she liked or still does like him, putting him down definitely won’t help. All you can really do is give her comfort. To all you ladies that have got dumped become his friend. This might help a little more with you getting over him. I know it might hurt you a little but in the end it just might be worth it. Having a friendship is sometimes so much better than having a relationship. But don’t make yourself become friends, if you’re not ready. If he’s not ready then don’t try, wait till you both can handle it. If your friend gets dumped and she is crying her eyes out, it would be good to go to her ex and ask him to explain to your friend why he dumped her. This will help her relax a bit, and she won’t be putting herself down and thinking that she ruined the relationship.

To the guys even though you are dumping her, be nice about it. Don’t just say I’m dumping you, be nice and say I think we should just be friends. If you are nice about it then most likely the girl will be ok, but if you’re a jerk your reputation is done. Well to all the guys that have gotten dumped it doesn’t feel good does it. Even though it seems you can get over it faster doesn’t mean girls do, so give her time and if you do want to be friends don’t ignore her after you dump her, keep talking so your friendship stays.

 If you’re the girl being the dumper, don’t say it’s not you it’s me. This hurts the guy even more. Just use the- “I think we should just be friends” line. But keep your friendship it lasts longer than relationships. If the guy asks you why you dumped him, be honest. Not to the point where it hurts him. So just remember, if you and your bf/gf break up, it’s not the end of your relationship.

It’s hard to recover sometimes but it will just take time. Occupy yourself and just try to have fun. Sometimes breaking up is for the best, you won’t know that right away but it will come.