Top 10 Ways to Survive a Break-up

By: Lyndsay & Tamara
9E Journalism

Having trouble letting go of that person you once liked/loved? Here are a few tips on making break ups a bit easier to deal with.

1. Gain closure, if needed.

If you still have questions about why your relationship ended, it’s better to send them an email or text message than to meet with them in person. This lessens the chance of getting into a shouting match with that person.

2. Give yourself time for healing before you enter another relationship.

Everyone heals at different rates, so you have to be patient with yourself. Never forget that it’s okay to cry, and feel bad for what happened. Don’t let this be an excuse to be alone forever, so just give it time and move on.

3. Stay busy to stop yourself from thinking about him/her.

Don’t daydream about what went on before you two broke up. If you do you’ll only end up wanting him/her back Ways you can prevent daydreaming is to take up a new hobby, get a part time job, try volunteer work or just simply focus all your energy on stuff you enjoy doing.

Doing this, will allow you to mix and mingle with other singles and couples. This will help replace the connections you had with your ex. Take action and join a club, attend a concert, volunteer, or even go to the park.

5. Surround yourself with as much family and friends as possible.

If your relationships with your friends and family have been damaged because you’ve spent too much time with your girlfriend/ boyfriend, now’s the time to patch things up with them, or even build your relationship with that individual stronger. Surrounding yourself with friends and family may also help you forget about your now ex.

6. Avoid spending too much time talking to your ex.

It’s good to avoid spending time talking to your ex, because if you talk to him/her all the time, your might be tempted to go back out with them. This would be bad because there’s the chance you’re going to get hurt again. Also if you talk to your ex it’s not really giving you time to heal and it could make the healing process harder.

7. Write your feeling down in a journal or in poems.

This is a technique that will help you get all of your feeling out, Best of all it’s personal. In writing you’re free to express yourself in anyway you want. The most important thing to remember though while writing is to be honest and don’t edit yourself as you go. Writing in a journal also lessens your grieving time.

8. Focus on yourself.

Most of your energy went into your relationship, but now that it’s over take this time to pamper yourself. Take long baths, read a good book, paint your nails and even go on a shopping spree. You deserve it.

9. Exercise and improve your diet.

Improving your diet and exercising will not only give you a boost of energy but it will keep you in shape for when you’re back on the market. This will even put you into social circumstances because you could join a gym.

10. Let go.

You will soon realize that there’s no reason to be heartbroken or regretful towards that one person. In the back of your mind you will always know that there’s always a next time. Still congratulate yourself for being brave enough to let yourself fall in love.

These are just a few tips on how to deal with a break-up, but there are lots more out there. Don’t dwell on past relationships, and give yourself time to heal, and you will be alright. If you thought these were good tips, but want more there are different websites you can go to that have good tips. Here are a few good ones:

http://topten.org/public/BB/BB390.html,

http://www.womansavers.com/Break-up-advice.asp.