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Starting to feel down and not too sure if the people you trust will really be there, email us at ask.andy@cmjhs.com and we’ll be here for you.

We’ll have our full attention on what you are asking and try our best to help. But don’t be worried because we’re two students, just like you. So don’t be afraid to ask questions like what you should do to talk to a girl. Or maybe even questions like what to do if you and your friend are fighting.

Dear Andy,

I really like my best friends ex-boyfriend but he doesn’t really notice me
and when I try to tell him how I feel he changes the subject and my best friend keeps on telling me to go for him but when I talk to my other friend she
says that she said that she doesn’t want me to be friends or more than friends
with him.   

WHAT SHOULD I DO???

Sincerly, confused

Dear Confused Girl:

If he changes the subject try not talking to him about it for a while. Maybe he doesn’t have feelings for you or he just doesn’t want to date, but what ever it is give him time to think. About your friend, go up and talk to her about it. Ask her why she doesn’t want you to be friends with him. She probably still has feelings for him so be considerate about that. Having a guy like you, isn’t worth losing a friendship, so really think about your decisions. If it does end your friendship with your best friend then maybe it isn’t worth it. Try reading some of our other articles and see if that helps you.
Hope everything works out.

Andy

dear andy,
there's so many rumors about me going around
and i'm not the type of girl to let things like
that get to me. but this time it reeally bothers
me. the things people are saying are just..
horrible. i spent all yesterday bawling
and non of my friends even aske dme if i was ok.
like, i just feel like breaking down. i'm seriously
not the type of girl to be doing this.to be crying
and such, i'm strong mentally. but i don't know
why it's differne tthis time.
help me...

Dear Breaking Down,

Rumors can definitely get to you if you let them; so don’t let them get to you. Show people how strong you are. You say you are strong mentally, well show them that you can get through the year on your own. Maybe it’s different this time because you’ve held too much in. Just let it out, cry. What really helps is you get through the day, having fun, no matter what is thrown your way. Then, you go home and go to your room and let it all out. Cry and write out everything that is getting you down. That way when you come back to school you’re a much stronger person. For the rumors, just ignore them. The people, who are starting them just want to see you fall, show them that it doesn’t bother you and that you are strong. I know that it does hurt that your friends aren’t really there for you when you are falling apart. So, talk to them; write them a note, something to get it out there. Tell them how you are feeling and how it’s hurting you. There is only a little less then a month left of school, hold in there.

Hope I helped,
Andy

Ok so a while ago  there was an injury lockdown. Why didn’t Mr. Wright or
someone tell us what happened? If it concerns our safety enough for there to be a
Lockdown, shouldn’t we be told was happened? They don’t even have to say who
it was, as long as they tell us what happened. I would rather have the story straight from Mr. Lein or Mr. Wright or someone than a garbled version from others.

Dear Concerned Student;

We had a chance to talk to Mr. Wright to find out what had happened. He told us that a student had fallen in the hallway and needed assistance from the ambulance. The bell was about to ring for period 6 and they didn’t want the hallways crowded because the ambulance had a stretcher and was taking care of the student. The staff made an announcement saying that there was an injured student in the hallways and that we had to remain in our classes.  Mr. Wright will always tell the students what happened, but he will only say the basics. It wasn’t for our safety it was for the injured student's. He made an announcement as soon as it happened. Mr. Wright asked us to remain in our classes because there was an injured student. Then when it was ok to come out he told us that the student was taken care of. You must have not heard it. So make sure you listen to all announcements because even though they may not seem important, they are.

Andy

dear andy.

kay. well i have been dating this guy for about a month.
he says he likes me and he promises he does. but he keeps making
all these hints that he doesnt want to date but he wont dump
me himself.
i like him so so so much. i mean ive never liked anyone this much before.
how can i just dump him? i dont want to.
but he obviously doesnt want to date me anymore. no matter how many times
he tells me he does i know he doesnt.

everyone told me before i dated him that he was a huge player and a dick
and would break my heart

but i kept telling him hes changed.
and now all of a sudden hes telling me the same thing.
hes agreeing with them.
i cant just end "us".
but i really dont want to go on wondering if he still likes me or not.

signed hating love.

Dear Hating Love,

Since you think he’s giving you hints that he doesn’t want to go out with you then dump him. I know you say that you don’t want to, but what’s the point if you are the only one who’s happy. I think that if he’s lying to you about liking you, when he doesn’t, that’s not a good thing. If he’s lying to you it’s not really worth it. In the end it will most likely be you who gets hurt. But if you really don’t want to dump him then just wait a bit longer. See how everything goes for a couple more days. Talk to him about it. Tell him what you think, tell him the truth. About everything, tell him you think he’s lying and doing things to make you want to dump him.  See what he says. I know it’s hard but you need to get the truth out in the open. Just tell him that he can’t lie to you about it anymore and he needs to tell the truth. Say that you don’t want anymore lies and if he doesn’t tell you the truth then you’ll just get hurt even more. If he lies to you still and you know it then that’s when you know you have to dump him. No relationship is worth the time if there’s no truth between the two of you. I know it will be hard to dump him especially since you like him a lot but no girl deserves that. I think that if he’s doing things to make you dump him then he’s being a jerk to you. Nobody deserves to be treated like that and in the end your heart will be crushed. I can’t make the decision for you but that’s what I would do. If you do dump him I know it will be hard for you and it will be hard to get over him. But here’s a tip if you do, life your life; be with your friends, be happy. Show him that you’ll be okay even though and at night think about everything. Let it all out. Write little notes to him about how you feel but don’t actually give them to him. This will help get your feelings out. I really hope that I’ve helped and good luck with your situation.

Andy

Dear Andy,

How do you deal with rejection?

From,
rejected

Dear Rejected:
Under Student Journalism there is going to be an article about rejection and getting dumped that you can read, but if that doesn’t help you e-mail us back and we will give you different advice.

Andy

Dear Andy,

What do you do when your best friends boyfriend asked you out and you don't wanna break your friends heart but you wanna go out with him?

From,
no where else to turn

Dear No where else to turn:

If your friendship means more to you then going out with this boy, don’t risk it. Tell him that you like him but you don’t want to ruin things between your friend and him and between you and your friend. If he respects that he will back off. If he happens to break up with your friend for you make sure talk to her about it first. Make sure she is ok with it before you go out with him. But if he doesn’t break up with her give them their space, don’t get between them. Give them time and if it doesn’t work and she ends up breaking up with him then talk to her and ask if you could go out with him, but if he breaks up with her, wait a bit then talk to your friend about it. Good luck with it all.

Andy

Dear Andy,

What do you do when you like your best friend and your afraid to ask him because you don't wanna wreack your friendship with him?


From,
Afraid

Dear Afraid,

If you guys are best-friends I’m sure it wouldn’t hurt if you talked about it. In person, msn, email, a note; whatever you’re comfortable with. Tell him how you feel and see how he feels. I know it’s hard to tell him because you don’t want to lose that friendship but he should know how you really feel about him. Whatever you decide to do, make sure he knows that you don’t want to wreck your guys’ friendship. If he feels the same way about you then that’s good; maybe you guys can take it to the next level. If not then see how he reacts to knowing that you like him. If nothing changes then that’s good; your friendship is very strong and maybe one day he’ll feel the same about you. If he doesn’t act the same and doesn’t talk to as much and you don’t like it. Take another chance and tell him about how you feel about it. I know that it’s a lot of ‘putting yourself out there.’ But its better then having to watch a friendship fade. There are two ways you can handle it though. You can tell him how you feel and say that you don’t like the way he acts now and that you didn’t want things to change. Or you can put some effort in and keep on talking to him. Things will go back to normal just give it some time. But whatever way you chose make sure you are true to yourself and stay honest to him. Good luck and I hope I helped.

Andy

hey andy,
so i kinda have a problem. my parents have been talking about moving alot,
and i don't want to move! Then, when I ask them about it they say, "We'll
tell you later", and they never do! I have been in Strathmore since I was
born, and I DON'T want to switch schools when I only have four years left!


please help,
sad girl

Dear Sad Girl,

All I can tell you is to ask your parents about it. Talk to them; talking really helps. Just say something like: “Mom, (or dad) I just want to know if we are moving or not. You keep telling me you’ll tell me later but you still haven’t. And it’s later now. I just want to know if we are moving because I really don’t want to. I’ve lived here my whole life and I really like it here. I only have four years left of school and I don’t want to switch schools right now.” Just tell them how you feel. See what they say. If they tell that you are moving then ask them where; see if it’s just a new house or if you are moving away from Strathmore. If you are moving away from Strathmore, ask when. You can’t really do anything about what your parents’ decision is. IF you are really bummed out and really, really don’t want to move then ask why you are moving and tell them again you don’t want to move because you only have four years of school left. Then again four years can be a long time. Moving is difficult yes. It’s hard to deal with, especially since I don’t know much about you and your parents. That’s the best advice I can give to you. Just talk to them. Talking will really help. And if you do move, maybe the new school won’t be so bad. Maybe it will work out for the best. Just don’t stress it. If you move make your last days here at Crowther fun and memorable. Just remember that everything happens for a reason. Things will work out for the best.
I hope I helped you and good luck.

Andy

Dear Andy all my friends are getting boyfriends and i have never had one
and when ever i am with them i feel like a third wheel and sometimes they bug
me about not having a boyfriend and i feel really sad about it i don’t know
what  to do. :(

Dear Third Wheel,

Don’t worry about not having a boyfriend. I get how you feel though, about being a third wheel. And I would too. But don’t feel too sad about not having a boyfriend right now. Just worry about hanging out with your friends and having fun. When the time is right for you to get a boyfriend, you will be ready and one will come. Don’t stress your friends bugging you. Boy’s come and go but friend’s never leave. Your friends might bug you about this kind of thing but don’t stress the small stuff. They will always be your friends and there for you, so it’s just what friends do. Don’t let it get to you, just make jokes about it too. This will help you not feel so sad about not having a boyfriend. If you really want a boyfriend look around, keep an open mind and your options open. If you find a guy, get to know him, and things will work out for the best.

Andy

hey Andy,

I keep hearing that there is a teacher who sees our email first.  Is this
true?  and do i need to care?  I'm jsut wondering what this teacher is doing with my questions.  y doesnt it just go srtaight to u?  I mean i want
your advice not some teachers.

uncertain

Dear Uncertain,

Yes, this is true our teacher does see the email first and no, you do not need to care about it. Our teacher does nothing with your questions. She sends the question or story to us; she doesn’t forward the email or anything. She simply copy and pastes the story and sends it to us and we answer the question and send it back to the Ask Andy email. This may answer part of your question, because as you can see she doesn’t really do anything with your question. She sends it to us and we give the advice and send it back. You are getting our advice so you have nothing to worry about. It doesn’t go straight to us because it’s for your protection and privacy. It’s so we, as grade nine students, don’t know who’s sending the email incase it’s something personal and is not fit for just grade nine students to be answering.

Andy

I like this guy who is one of my best friends 
And his buddy is one of my best friends too.
Well his friend likes this girl in our class and now they are
blowing us off to hang out with her and her friends and I don’t know what
to do I don’t want to lose our friendship. And I am not sure how to tell my best
bud I like him what do I do?

Dear Secret feelings,

Liking your best friend can be tough, because it’s hard to debate whether or not you’ll lose your friendship or if it will still be the same. There is no sure way you can decide if you will or not, but it’s all up to you. It’s the way you tell him you like him and depends on how close you guys are as friends. It’s a very hard decision to make, from my experience, and you have to be sure you’re ready to risk some of the closeness you may share. You can tell him in person, on the phone, write him a note or even in an email or msn. Whatever you feel comfortable with. Make sure you tell him that you still want to be friends and you hope it won’t affect your friendship with him. Since you don’t want to ruin your friendship with him, don’t make it awkward for you guys. Talk to him still, act like it never happened. Don’t be shy around him just because you know that he knows you like him. Keep that friendship close and don’t let it get distant. As for his friend liking a girl in your class, just tell him that you don’t like what he is doing. Tell him that you know he likes her but it doesn’t mean he has to blow his other friends off. Tell him that her friends and your friends can hang out, or say that it’s fine if he wants to hang out with her friends, but don’t forget about his friends. Ask him to hang with you guys for a couple days and then her friends. So don’t forget to tell him how you feel. Hopefully things turn out the way you want it to!

Andy

I’m really sad right now there is sooo much drama going on with all my
friends ad I am being torn into two when my friends fight I don’t know what to do.
Worst of all people are talking behind my back to my friends :( what do I do?    
I’m so confused.

signed confused

Dear Confused:

Drama is hard to fight. The only thing you can do is to try and avoid it. When your friends fight, don’t get in the middle of it, it just makes things worse. If it bothers you try helping them solve their problems but don’t be the cause of another. Most of the time drama is just because girls don’t talk things out they would rather gossip about it to other people and hope it goes away. For it to go away you need to sit down and talk about what ever is bothering you. Confront the person and figure things out or else things will just get worse. If people are talking about you behind your back go up to the people and ask them why they are saying it, or talk to them about it. If you’re not that kind of person, just ignore it. You know the truth so don’t let it get to you. Even if that doesn’t work have one of your good friends talk to the people talking about you. Try not to let things bug you because it’s not worth it. I hope everything works out the way you want it to.

Andy

so my biggest problem right now is just a typical guy problem. im sure
youve heard this lots before. so i like this guy in grade 9. im really really shy
so do u have any tips on how to act calm and not blush when we are talking or
when he looks at me? oh and one more problem... i think he has a girlfriend! i
will admit sabotaging her or embarassing her has crossed my mind, but im just
not the type to do it. any tips on how to not want to seriously hurt her (im
just kidding... sort of) when they talk or laugh together?

Dear Jealous;

            We have had many e-mails like yours. Check out our page and read about some other people’s problems and our advice. It should help you a lot. Good luck.

Andy

Andy

I have a guy friend who I have a crush on.  I had a crush on him a while ago
then later he had a crush on me.  Now I have one on him again, so I tried to
ask him (he's also my best friend) to the Halloween dance (sort of)... but he
like ran away.  He’s my best friend so I know he doesn’t hate me.  But if he
had a crush on me then y is he running away?  This is so depressing.

Dear Depressed;
           
Well first off boys will be boys. They can be nice sweet guys one day then they can be really immature. He is probably just running away because he is scared and doesn’t know what to do. Maybe you two being in a relationship isn’t for the best. Sometimes it’s better just to be friends. Try not to make things awkward between you to. Talk to him and if he still runs away, just ask him what is wrong. If he won’t talk to you ask one of your close friends to try and talk to him. Don’t worry about it, he will come around. Just give him some space.

Andy

Dear Andy,
    Lately there has been this girl who hung out with us. I never really
liked her, but she stills hangs out with us. She will start to freak out on
us even though we didn't do anything. She'll start swearing and stuff and
have a total fit, and tell us she hates us and stuff. Then the next day she
will come to school and act like nothing happened. I keep telling her I
don't want to be her friend, but she won't listen! What do I do? Thanks!

Dear confused about a friend;

            We have got many e-mails about the same idea you are asking about. Check out the page and read some of the friend e-mails. I think it should help you.

Andy

so there’s this guy who i like and he’s in grade 9. i just realized that next
 year he will be at the high school and ill still be here! we are just
friends but i want it to be a bit more, and also for him to know how i feel about
him.  how can i make the most of this year?

p.s. im really shy so please don’t tell me to go right up to him and tell
him i like him

Dear Shy Girl,

Okay, well for me if I were in your position, I would flirt with him a little. Stand close to him, giggle, poke him, but be careful that you don’t annoy him. You don’t want that; try talking to him more, but not too much. Flirting gives the guy a little idea that you like him. But be very careful, you don’t want to talk to him too much, like don’t go out of you way just to talk to him. From my experience, guys like girls who know how to handle there selves. What I mean by that is that guys likes girls who can talk to a guy, normally and get a good conversation going. They like girls who know when enough is enough. Don’t stress too much over the little stuff, like the age difference. If he’s only one year older than you, then that’s not a big problem. It just means you have to put in the time to talk to him, like meet at the store, at lunch times. But that’s next year, don’t look too far ahead, take little steps at a time. Deal with what you’ve got now and don’t worry about what’s going to happen later. You can make the most of the year by hanging out with him, talking to him, get closer and closer. Once you start to get closer to him, you won’t be as shy and maybe then you will feel comfortable about telling him how you really feel.

Andy

Hi..... I talk to you a while ago and I had some problems but now I need
to ask you how I would break up with my boyfriend. were really tight but us
dating just doesn’t seem real and I’m not supposed to and we’ve been dating
for about almost half a year and I don’t know I guess I am just losing
interest in him and its not because I like someone else because I don’t
really but I really don’t want to hurt him again.......... please help me!



   Signed

        confused but hurt

Dear Confused but Hurt;

            I’m sorry it didn’t work out between you two. Well if you feel that it’s not working then you should talk to him about it. Just say that you tried the dating thing and it just doesn’t feel right and that you would feel better if you guys were just friends. Tell him that you are starting to lose interest in dating and you weren’t ready to be committed to a relationship. He might be hurt for the first little while but don’t make it awkward, keep talking to him so he knows that you weren’t dumping him for someone else. Hope everything works out!

Andy

this this girl at school who has been totally mean to me and my best friend
all  over a guy she got mad at ma friend beause her boyfriend broke up with her
and  blamed my friend for asking him out and then she invloved me and it has
being  going on for 2 months and she is saying that we are spreading rumors about
her and her friends are being really rude how can we stop all the lies ???

signed confused

AND - a similar letter....

I was friends with this one girl for about a year and now I'm not friends
with her anymore. She's been telling people that I've been spreading rumors
about her, which I havent, and getting a whole bunch of people to turn
against me.Sometimes I'll see some people glaring at me in the hall. She
keeps on dragging this fight out, we've been fighting for about 3 months
now. She's even gotten my best friend involved in it and she's blaming her
for all her problems. Now she's been telling my bff that she's sorry and
she wants to be friends again with us. But the thing is, I dont know what
is true and what is not out of the things she says. what should I do about
it?

Dear Confused Girls

Okay, well to start off I would tell your old friend that you’re not too sure you want to be friends again. Tell her that it’s not okay that she was spreading rumors about you and that you don’t know if you trust her anymore because of it. Tell her how you feel and maybe you guys can start all over again, if you’re up for it. But if you decide to be friends with her, it’s your decision whether or not you start over, from the beginning or go back to where you left off. If you don’t know if you really trust her again, then tell her that. If you’re not ready to become friends with her then don’t, because it won’t be worth the time. Try talking things out. Same with the second question, try to talk things out. Or try avoiding this person; this will help a little more about stopping all the lies. Stay away from her and don’t repeat anything she says, or you hear. Tell this person that you can’t control what happens between her and her boyfriend. Tell her that it’s not your fault and that it was his decision to break up with her or not. If she still accuses you about spreading rumors about her, just tell her that you haven’t been saying anything; you haven’t been around her, so how would you know what she’s been up to. All I can say is confront her about it.
Hope this helped for you confused girls’ and everything works out okay. 

Andy

hey andy so i want an ipod for christmas but im really shy and have a hard
time asking for things. my brothers want a wii, and i know that if they get a
wii, i  probably wont get an ipod. how can i talk to my parents and ask them for a
wii  and an ipod?

Dear Ipod Girl;
            Just talk to your parents about it and say, “If my brothers get the wii I think it would be fair if I got an Ipod.” If they end up saying no, ask a grandparent or a relative. When Christmas comes and you didn’t get an ipod, save up your money and buy one yourself. But hey, a wii is just as much fun as an ipod. So maybe ask for one next year too or for your next birthday.

Andy

I like this boy. But he is in grade 8 and I am in grade 7. And
all the kids I know have told him I like him. Now he is
calling me names what do I do?

From The heart broken girl

Dear the Heart Broken Girl;

I’m sorry to hear that. If I was in your situation I would confront him and ask him why he is doing this. He might just be doing it because he is with all his friends and he is just trying to be cool. It might also be because he likes you and he doesn’t want to be embarrassed so he is trying to cover it up by calling you names. Boys are confusing and you will never know what they actually think, so don’t let this get to you. It will be over with soon, so let it go and he will too. Hopefully everything works out for you.

Andy

I don't have any friends and everybody thinks i am a loser :( what shall I
do?

Dear Lonely;

            That is sad to hear. You aren’t the only one, so if you see other kids in school who don’t seem to have any friends, go make an effort to become friends with them. Introduce yourself and just start a conversation. You will thank yourself and the other person will be thankful of you. Everyone needs a friend in their life and the only way to have one is to go out and make friends. Don’t worry about the people who think you are a loser; it’s not worth listening to or believing. People might be calling you a loser because of the way you act and the things you do. Don’t try to be someone else, be yourself and people should like you for who you are. Try socializing more and show everyone who you are. They might start to think you’re a pretty cool person. So don’t hold back, but don’t act like a little kid. Hopefully a friend comes your way.

Andy

So I really like this one boy, and we dated at the beginning of the school
year. And last night at the dance we were dancing and he told me he still
loved me. And I said it back, but he has a girlfriend. And I don’t know what
to think. HELLPP MEE!

- Confused

Dear Confused;

Well if he has a girlfriend I think he would of moved on, but don’t give up. He might come back to you in a bit. Give him some space; he probably just needs a break. Try not to believe everything he says because it might not be true, and in the end you will be the one who got hurt. Don’t get your hopes up to high but don’t shove them in the dirt either. There are many other guys out there who will be there for you, don’t rely on one guy. Play the field a little, see what other guys will offer you. Hopefully this guy realizes what he is missing.

Andy

i cant stand one of my teachers.  she hates me and i don't even do anything
to get in truble, she just gets mad as soon as i come in.  how do i get
through this year?


always in trouble

Dear Always in Trouble;

I know how you feel. I once had a teacher like that. The only thing you can do is come to class on time, do all your work and just try to be a good student and maybe she will lay off a bit. If that is affecting your school work talk to your teacher and ask why they are picking on you. If that doesn’t work and it keeps happening talk to your parents and ask them to talk to the teacher. Having a teacher like that just brings you down and ruins your year and it’s not worth it, so talk to the teacher. Hope everything turns out the way you want it to.

Andy

Dear Too Many Friends,

When you have a lot of friends, it’s tough to find some time to really get together and spend time with just one of them. All I would do, if I were in your position, is try making a time to hang out with your friend. Just you and her, alone, or maybe even plan a sleep over. For the “puppy dog” thing I would say try telling her again, but make sure you get your friend alone.

Andy

dear andy

ok what do u do if u still like love your ex bf but he is dating someone else and dose not love u back but u cant get over him what do I do?


From
dating is evil but awesome

Dear Dating is evil but awesome:

We have received a few e-mails asking this question. All you can do is try to be happy for him. If you want to get over him try not talking or thinking about him for a little bit. It takes time to get over a guy you really like, so don’t stress over it. Spend more time with your friends, talk to them about it. Try having fun with your friends so it takes your mind of the guy. Flirting with other guys helps too. Here are some more tips to help you.

• You can always just cry and get it all out of your system so you don't have to worry about it.
• Remember that there are millions of other guys out there
• Try to avoid spending time with him if possible. It's harder to get over someone you're always thinking about.
• Think about it this way -- if he is happier with someone else, then would you really want him to be unhappy, so that you can be happy?
• Know that there is someone perfect out there for you, not a jerk that broke your heart.
• Write down how your feel, write a letter to him, but do not send it.

Andy

Dear Stressed Grd 7,
           
Well first you two should talk about why you keep fighting. Try to figure out what causes it. If you guys can not stop fighting even after that, maybe it’s not worth it to have a friendship like that. I don’t want to tell you, you shouldn’t be friends but maybe you guys need to take a break from one another. Spend a couple days with other friends then see if that helps. If that doesn’t work, and you guys still want to be friends, try starting over. Tell each other what you don’t exactly like about them, or what they do, then hopefully you both will change and that will make your friendship better.

As for your other question, if you really like him and you have a chance, go for it. If your friend is a true friend, she will be happy for you. But if you guys do end up going out, make sure you spend a lot of time with your bf and your friend. Nothing is worse than ditching your friends for your man. So be sensitive to your friend, because it will hurt her but she will get over it. If I was in your position I would talk to my friend about it first and make sure she is ok with you and your crush going out. If you value your friendship more than a relationship, make sure you and your friend are cool about it. If she gets mad maybe tell your bf, I don’t think we should go out because I don’t want to lose my friend, but we can still be friends.

Andy

hi, how are you

me and my friend are in a fight and she is so annoying and i dont no what to do. and when i was dating my bf, she dated him at the same time!what do i do?

confused

Dear Confused,

I am good, thanks for asking.  Now as for your problem, that is really inconsiderate for your friend to do that to you. All I can tell you, from my experience, is that maybe your friend isn’t really a true friend. And maybe it’s not really worth it. But if you’re hurt by what she did, tell her about how you feel. If she’s really a true friend she’ll listen to you and she’ll try to understand. Don’t start things with her, like do something to get back at her (revenge) that will just make things worse.

Just remember…

“Friends come and go, true friends never leave”
-author unknown

Andy

Dear Lonely,

I say talk to your friends about how you’re feeling, don’t let them get the best of you. Try talking to the people who are against you too. Get the truth out there, if the stuff your friends are saying about you isn’t true, then tell the people who think that it’s true, that it’s not.

From my experiences, forgiving is really the best that you can do. You can’t change what’s already happened, but you can change what’s going to happen. Friends who spread rumors about you aren’t really worth the time. And sometimes getting the truth out there isn’t worth it either. More people want to know the gossip rather than the truth. I would talk to my friends and tell them how I feel about what they’re doing. If it doesn’t work out get some new friends, because the kind of friends who turn their backs on you aren’t very good friends. The kind of friends that won’t forgive aren’t really worth the time. 
Friends can be mean sometimes and they will turn their backs on you but true friends will always run back (and say sorry). Talk to them and ask them if you guys can start over with them and if they don’t want to start over, make some new friends.
“You have to take the good with the bad, smile with the sad, love what you have, and remember what you had. Always forgive but never forget, learn from your mistakes but never regret. People change, things go wrong just remember life goes on so be yourself and don’t waste time on being mad or sad.”
-Daice Smith

Hope this helped,
Andy

dear andy,

ok i have a boyfriend and we never actually hang out or talk because of my religon and im  not supposed  be dating anyone, and well its hard being his girlfriend if you cant really hang out what should i tell him becuase i dont want to break up with him and he doesnt either....... what would you to in this situation??

p.s. what grade are you in?

signed
confused girlfriend

Dear Confused Girlfriend,

We don’t really know what to tell you, all we can say is that if you’re uncomfortable about going against your religion don’t do it. But I would tell him about your religion and hangout with him at school. You guys can still be friends right, just talk to him, be more open about it. When your dating someone your suppose to be open, and respectful. If he is really into you he will try to make it work out. And I’m sure he’ll respect your feelings and decisions, so I say just be open about it.

Andy

Dear Crushing boy,

Well first off it would be a good idea to talk to her and get to know her better. Even try flirting with her a bit. This kind of gives her the idea that you like her. When you get comfortable enough let her know how you feel. A lot of people think it’s a bad idea to tell the person you like, that you like them. So I say go for it and take chances, life isn’t fun without them. But everyone has their own way of flirting, so just be yourself, be nice, and don’t show off, girls hate that.

Andy

dear Andy,

Im in the 7th grade and i was just wanting some advice about a really cute guy in my class, But it's diffrent cus he was at my school last year And things were great but this year im invisible and Theres no way I can go talk to him cus he is never alone and it would really hard too tell him how I feel soo what should I do

signed
Confused and Invisible

Dear Confused and Invisible,

Things can change in a day, in a week, or change might even take some years. But things will change, mostly because of the person. But if things between you two were great the year before, then get back to where it started. Have some fun, talk to him; just be yourself around him. Don’t be afraid to talk to him because his friends are around. Guys like a confident girl. And I agree that it would be hard to tell him how you feel; with all his friends are standing right next to him. But no one said it had to be that way, ask him if you can talk to him, alone. Telling him in person how you feel is better, but if you’re not comfortable with it don’t tell him yet. If you want him to know how you feel but are too shy to tell him in person try writing a note or maybe even email him. Don’t be invisible, stand out, not in a show off kind of way, but as yourself. Talk to him more, in class and out. Hope everything works out, and things start to warm up between you and him.

Andy

Dear Nervous;

I know what you’re going through; it’s very common for girls. From my experiences, all I would do is act like he is one of your good friends. If you can’t look him in the eye focus on something behind him. This will make it seem like your looking at him and it won’t make you as nervous. When you are talking to him and you start to blush, don’t try to hide it or be embarrassed about it because it will just make it worse. Some guys think it is cute when you blush so pretend you don’t notice it and it will hopefully go away. When you start to stammer, just slow down; take some breaths and then start to talk again. As for the sweating I don’t know what to say. Try to find a good deodorant  ;)  But really, the key is to calm yourself down so you don’t get worked up in the first place. I hope everything works out for you and this boy.

Andy

Dear Andy;

So, I like this guy a lot, but so does my friend. And I've liked him since I was 12, so 2 years. And she's driving me crazy about him. She keeps telling me he says things that he doesn't, and I know he doesn't because I always talk to him about it. And one day she likes him then she doesn't.

Then she does again. And its DRIVING ME CRAZYYY! Should I say something to her about it? ARGH!

Dear Frustrated;

Tell her to tell you the truth, lies will only hurt you more...talk to both of them and try to clear things all up, and i think if its really driving you crazy, then you should really come out with the truth and talk to her about it. Ask her, why she's not telling you the truth and ask her why she keeps  saying things that he doesnt actually say...(maybe she just wants to make you jealous, but dont let it get to you...tell her straight up... to the face.)

Andy

Dear Andy;

what if your boy friend is a smoker but you really like him and you don't want to brake up with him and you also don't want to smoke

Dear Non-Smoker;

You can tell him that you really like him and you don't care if he smokes,but you wouldn't mind if he could not smoke in front of you...and also that you yourself don't want to be a smoker...just to take the pressure off. And if he does smoke in front of you, just tell him I really don't want to break up, but if you don't respect what I asked then maybe it won't go as far.

Andy